Until death do us part—except every other Friday.
For years, we have said—to each other, to our boyfriends, to people writing in to our advice column—that monogamy is a choice, and if you expect it to come naturally, then your relationship (or your shot at one) is doomed. In other words, don’t take monogamy for granted; take the urge to stray for granted. But then again, our underlying assumption was that of course you’d choose monogamy, because what other choice was there? That’s what happily-ever-after requires. Although we may crave a fling on the side, the thought of our partner’s doing the same is heartbreaking, and so we agree to fidelity in order not to drive each other crazy.el - The one thing you are limited in for relationships is time. I learned before my marriage that I didn't believe in jealousy but then I had to learn that I could become upset and jealous over time. My S.O. wasn't spending time with me when I would like to be with her. I wasn't jealous she was with someone else, I became jealous of losing time I enjoyed with her. I like things that make people I love happy which is why I don't feel jealous about other people. I got jealous of lost time. Becoming more mature means that I found many more things to occupy my time instead of needing one particular person with me. Still, if there is something you want to do at a particular time with someone expanding relationships can make life much more complicated. Touch carefully those time, fidelity, and monogomy issues.
But lately, these questions have become more than just theoretical.
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